Restore Your Peace: High Conflict Divorce Coach Halton Region
Helping you bring calm to chaos during your high conflict divorce
what makes a divorce high conflict?
Divorces in general are an emotional time that usually involves disagreements, arguments and a range of emotions. However, as the dust settles, the two parties are able to put aside their differences, move forward and focus on what is in the best interest of the children.
In a high conflict divorce, the dust never settles. In fact, it can get a lot worse!
Often the ex partner's sole intention is to be cruel, spiteful and make things hard on you...without any regard for the children's well being.
Can you relate?
- false allegations made toward you
- Outbursts when things don't go his/her way
- Counter Parenting- intentionally working against your parenting
- Gaslighting- uses manipulation to make you question reality
- Tries to enforce power and control over you
- Unable to take responsibility and blames everyone else for his/her own behaviours
- Verbal, physical, psychological, financial and/or legal abuse
- Uses the children to hurt you, speaks negatively about you to the children
- Quick to claim "Parental Alienation" by you
* IT ONLY TAKES ONE PERSON TO MAKE A DIVORCE HIGH CONFLICT!
What is a High Conflict Divorce Coach (HCDC)?
A trained professional that specializes in helping one navigate the divorce process from a High Conflict Individual (HCI) or person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) traits.
A coach will support you emotionally, help strategize, safety plan, educate and help protect both you and your children's well being.
HCDC can help with the following:
- Set boundaries
- Help understand the court system
- How to communicate with your ex partner
- How do document communication
- Help draft parenting plans
- Assist with preparation for mediation or court
- Help you understand and anticipate how a High Conflict NPD individual behaves.
- Become less triggered and decrease your anxiety, frustration, anger or fear.
- Be your sounding board when you are feeing emotional and need to talk things out.
Why work with Me?
- Certified at the top of my class in Tina Swithin's certification program specializing in High Conflict Divorce
- Amongst the divorce coaches in your area, I am one of the few coaches certified to navigate divorces with High Conflict Individuals and NPD traits
- Experience in the following areas:
Child Protection
Addictions
Special needs children
Intimate Partner Violence
Child Development & mental health
Court System
I have been in a similar situation as you and I want to help!
Meet Nicole Decooman!
My Goal
My goal is to help parents advocate for the needs and well being of their children when dealing with a high conflict ex. partner. By assisting parents to navigate a high conflict divorce and post separation abuse, they can be healthy and powerful to fight for their children’s best interest, be their children’s foundation and restore their own peace while in the process.
My Background
Hi, I’m Nicole and I’m a certified High Conflict Divorce Coach. I am a mother to my three children (one with special needs) and I too went through a high conflict separation and experienced post separation abuse from an ex partner with NPD traits. When I first learned about NPD, it was a HUGE “ah ha” moment for me. Everything started to make sense! From that point on I made it a point to educate myself and understand. This was one of my biggest strengths in navigating my approach moving forward, but not without exhaustion, stress, tears, anxiety, mistakes, abuse and injustices.
That is why I am here for you. It takes a village right!
Not only through my personal experience of navigating a high conflict separation, my education and various professions have added to my knowledge of understanding the different dynamics of families.
I have a degree in Child Development, a diploma in Early Childhood Education and various different trainings along the way. For the last 14 years I have worked in child protection. Previous to that, I worked as a behavioural consultant for young children, with mothers managing addictions and with families with a special needs child.
Specifically, my work in child protection furthered my experience (and empathy) with addictions, Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) and mental health, all of which I can support you with should you be dealing with any of these challenges throughout your divorce.
Most of all, I will be that person whom supports, advocates, guides and equips you when you are feeling exhausted, confused, drained and at a loss. I will help you see through the fog and put together a plan and strategy for your goals. You deserve this, your children deserve this, and all of you deserve to have your peace restored!
Services
Package A: Single 75 minute Consultation
$125
Includes an overview of your intake form, your needs and next steps. You will walk away with action items!
Package B: Three 60 minute sessions
$280
What do YOU need assistance with?
- Leaving a partner
- Creating a parenting plan
- Finding a lawyer
- Supporting your children through a separation
- Managing Post Separation Abuse
*These sessions are yours to use at your discretion!
Package C: Communication Co-Pilot
$250/month
Assistance with communication with your ex partner. Reading and assisting with emails/messages.
Includes brief check in's throughout the month
* All fees are subject to HST
Testimonials
"Nicole has been an incredible support system to me. Whenever I reach out, she always responds in a timely manner and I feel that being consistent in that capacity is very important when you need assistance for a high conflict divorce. Nicole is a genuine, sympathetic and caring woman who speaks with compassion. I never feel judged when I speak to her about my personal matters. I would highly recommend reaching out to Nicole if you need guidance navigating a high conflict divorce."
- Sam, Whitby
"Nicole is extremely knowledgeable from both her personal and professional experiences. She had many suggestions and resources that were able to help get me into the right mind frame to move forward."
- Julie, Toronto
"Nicole made herself available whenever I needed the support. She genuinely cares and wants to help. I appreciated the check-in's and follow up, as well as offering to help me with the things I found difficult to do on my own. She never made me feel judged and really made me feel like I wasn't alone during this overwhelming time."
- Andrea, Georgetown